WHAT A WOMAN SHOULD BE TO A MAN

A woman was made from a rib of a man not from his hand to be tipped by him nor from his feet to be stepped on by him but beneath his arms to be equal to him, near his heart to be loved by him.

Happiness

Happiness

The tale of a king who failed to find happiness came flooding through my mind. Probably this is no new tale. Well, he failed to find happiness and sought the advice of his courtiers. The wise ones advised him to wear the shirt of happy man. So, king’s men were ordered to search for a happy man’s shirt. Though there were many people who had shirts on but none were happy. To cut the story short, they finally found a happy man but it turned out that he had no shirt. The tale, of course is not meant to be taken literally; yet the sagacity it implies is very much significant.

It is difficult to decide what happiness is, for we cannot agree on a single definition that is common to all. One’s man’s idea of a happy life will be entirely different from another. I’m in my hand now holding a bar of Cadbury chocolate. Perhaps to a child, having a bar of Cadbury would make him so happy. The child is easily contented. He was sad and now contented because of the bar of Cadbury. Very simple minded indeed. Should we all be as child like ? Keeping things simple in life. Ponder!!!

Before we try to decide what brings happiness, we have to be quite definite what sort of happiness we aim to achieve. For example, there is the sort of happiness aimed by those who free themselves from all worldly entanglements. Such people believe that desire for wealth and material pleasures are the root of all discontentment; Theoretically, it stands to reason that as long as there are unfulfilled desires and thwarted ambitions there will be discontent and hence unhappiness. The average man will find little happiness in life which he has nothing that he can call his own. Besides, when you have nothing to strive for, is life worth living? So, as far as the bulk of humanity is concerned, the “happiness” derived from a complete absence of wealth and material pleasures is no happiness at all.

When we try to seek how material conditions and pleasures can create the contentment that results in happiness, we will be forced to admit that there can be no common standard to decide this. Some may consider wealth as the first of these conditions, others there may be who differ. Again, granted wealth is one of the conditions for happiness, we will find it difficult to answer how much of it is needed to make a happy life. This will apply to all the other factors that one can think of. Health, social position, security in life, fame and education- all or some of these may be enumerated as factors essential to gain happiness and to what extent happiness is achieved? For all these, there cannot be one universal measure. So it is futile to attempt to give a single answer to gain happiness.

Since all the material factors that contribute to a happy life may fail to produce happiness if the individual concerned is not contented with what he has it may appear that this feeling of contentment is the most decisive factor in the chase for happiness. The story of Alexander-the Great, with the Greek philosopher Diogenes, brings out the conflict of the two views on happiness. The philosopher wanted to show the foolishness of the Great Conqueror’s soaring ambition. “After you have conquered Athens,” asked the philosopher, ”what then?”

“I will conquer Persia”

“And after Persia?”

“I will conquer the world.”

“And after you have conquered the world?”

“I will take it easy and enjoy myself.”

“Then why?” ask the philosopher, “can’t you take it easy and enjoy yourself now?”

Wisdom lies in choosing a sensible mean between the two. It is cowardice to run away from life and live like a hermit. At the same time, to run ceaselessly panting after the pot of gold at the foot of the rainbow that always evades you is to fill your cup with tears and sorrow. One should take life easily and at leisurely stride. As Mr. Wilson or ‘Lotus Eater’ asked, “Why should life all labour be?” Such an attitude may enable one to achieve certain measures of happiness- all that is needed is that mental capacity to feel contented with one’s lot in life, whatever it be. But did Mr. Wilson had a happy life when he died overlooking the Bay of Naples? It may be asked in the face of harsh realities of life, when insurmountable obstacles choke one’s ambition, when one’s cherished hopes and desires burst out like bubbles as if by the pin-pricks of a malignant fate, is it humanly possible to feel contented and wrap oneself in happy thoughts? As what about how Madame Mathilde complained about her fate? See the effects? Well, I don’t know! All I am certain is that nothing can make your life happy unless you know how to feel happy. Life is not always a bed of roses. Think of happy thought, stay with happy people. They sent good vibes. Smile.. it does wonders. SMILES from me.

THERE COMES A TIME IN LIFE :

This blog has one single aim: to refresh your memory, by reminding you of when we first met, that distant time when you would depend on me for everything, even as a compensation for your affective and financial needs!It's a good thing those times are over and done with, isn't it? I would be glad if you are able to improve your life. Tell me something: were the things you said to me and all the affection you devoted to me are nothing but lies? And, at the same time, I was given me the chance to get to know you better, and realize you are nothing but a big opportunist, the kind of nasty person who only cares about himself while taking advantage of others. Because of the way you did things, you would never deserve my trust again.I want you to know that I wish you no harm; but I can't help wondering if you are really happy that way? Could it be that this habit of yours of abusing of the trust, faith and love of others will not, in a way, turn against you? I guess only time can tell.I would like to tell you that, once again, that my only intention is to refresh your memory and that I never considered or will consider asking you to come back to me. After all, it would be stupid of me to try to trust you again or even to devote you a small portion of my love, which so precious and rare.May this single note touch your heart, and make you realize that you were not honest with me, inconsistent with your thought, lying all the time about who you are. May it have this single purpose alone...

Students who are reading this and don't understand what on earth is going on then take the title as your assignment for your essay.

REALITY IS SOMETHING YOU CAN RISE ABOVE

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You're bigger than anything that can happen to you.

The obstacles you face are only mental barriers which can be overcome
by adopting a more positive approach.

Have the courage to confront what you can imagine.

You don't have to be a puppet manipulated by outside powerful forces,
you can become the powerful force yourself.

Courage is resistance to fear and mastery of fear, not absence of fear.
This is where you'll win the battle, in the playhouse of your mind.

Visualize what you want.
See it, feel it, believe in it.
Make your mental blueprint, and then begin to build.

See things as you would have them be instead of as they are.

The Secret

Be Happy... Just Cheer up Ok?

One of my favorite songs is Bobby McFerrin’s refrain, "Don’t Worry, Be Happy". I recently had the opportunity to observe people’s reactions when a highway was closed because of an accident ahead. As we waited, I watched as some listened to radios, a few began calling on their handphones, other’s seemed to be working or reading, and some opted for 40 winks. But, there were also a handful who were clearly agitated and angry. Pacing about,HONKING, swearing, and upset, they decided that the best response to this event, which none of us could control, was to be very unhappy.

I was also about to get agitated because I know that I'll sure be late for work. Then by coincidence, I read this on a bumper sticker on a car in front of mine. Guess what it says? Here goes : 'Being angry is punishing yourself for the mistake of others.' Hemmm....then it got me thinking. Being unhappy is not going to change the situation or make it better So Just try to be happy. I was reminded of Abraham Lincoln’s comment that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

The following are my Tips to increase happiness in your life:

1. Decide to be a happy person. As Lincoln observed, most people, most of the time, can choose how stressed or happy, how troubled or relaxed they want to be. Choose to be happy.

2. Watch and Read less news. As a recovering news addict, I know this can be difficult because the stock market fluctuates, politicians politic, and sports teams compete. But, most of the time, you don’t need the stress. So, just don’t watch. I think it was Henry Thoreau who noted that if you’ve ever read about a train wreck, you understand the principle and don’t need to know any more about it.

3. Practice the Attitude of Gratitude. We all have so much to be grateful for. Just thanking the many people who assist us, encourage us, teach us and open doors for us could take all day!

4. Laugh everyday. Hear a joke, tell a joke, laugh at yourself, laugh with your friends and family and co-workers. There are very few medicines as powerful as laughter, and I don’t think you can over-dose, although it is addicting!

5. Love well. Express your affection, appreciation, friendship and warmth to those around you, and they will almost always respond in the most amazing ways! Be generous…it pays great dividends!

6. Work hard. This one comes as a bit of a surprise, but there is tremendous satisfaction in being competent, and joy in completing our assigned tasks. One of the great sources of happiness is to do work that is worthy of you, and to do it well.

7. Learn something new, everyday. To be happy, most of us must also be growing, expanding, learning and challenging ourselves. Read, listen, adapt and stretch to accommodate new ideas and new information.

8. Use your body as it was designed. Walk and run, stretch, swim. Dance! Exercise is good. You have a body and it can be either a source of joy, or a source of aches and pains. The choice is yours.

9: Avoid toxins. I prefer writing positives (things to do) rather than negatives (things to fear), but reality says there are negative people and there are bad chemicals, stressful noises, and unsafe places. Don’t go there! Avoid poisons whenever possible. It seems to work out better that way.

10. Don't get too stressed up. Take time in doing things. It is ironic isn't it for me to say this. (For those who know me) BUT really... I should be doing it myself. Hu hu Hu.!!!!!Getting stress up will only produce toxins in the body... kill cells.... shorten life.

So, people, people.....what ever was said in the 'you know whose blogs' and the comments given....Don't get angry.... not worth it!!!In my opinion they are immature and insecure. Let them be. I was laughing when I read those comments.... YOU BE HAPPY!!!!! OK??

The Role and Value of Humor

1. It cuts stress in half
2. Lowers blood pressure
3. Increases your energy
4. Promotes happiness
5. Stimulates the immune system
6. Promotes healing (physical and emotional)
7. Positive humor fosters a positive attitude
8. Promotes social flexibility
9. Increases endorphins ( feel good chemicals)
10. Bonds us to one another and reduces social conflict

EGGS are just not what they are anymore!

I just bought a tray of eggs. Have been wondering for quite a while now if EGGS are fake nowadays. Man made if you would call it. They don't taste like eggs like they used to be. I really wonder why. And they don't taste nice and what more spoil easily. I've tried keeping one outside for months, I think. I accidentally broke it and expected it to smell real bad but surprisingly no foul smell. The egg got a bit dry inside that's all.

What really do the chickens eat nowadays. They are like machines producing eggs. So they claim chickens are fed with DHA. How much DHA really....

How do you get the DHA into the eggs?
Eggs are a natural source of ALA and DHA but not EPA significantly. We increase the DHA Omega 3 by simply supplementing the hens’ food with DHA micro rich algae. This patented technology involves growing algae, naturally found in the cold North Atlantic waters, in stainless steel tanks to prevent any contamination from pollution. The algae is then dried and fed to the hens. Each hen receives approximately 220mg of DHA of which 150 is deposited in the egg.
Some producers use fish oil, which may increase the EPA, but generally this method cannot produce an egg over 150mg of DHA without affecting the taste profile.

So they claim. But really the eggs don't taste like eggs.

I have seen photos of coop of hens called battery hens. Just look for yourself. Pity...

Try buying free range chicken eggs. (Kampung Chicken) cost more but well worth it in my opinion.

B*I*T*C*H

THINGS I HATE ABOUT PEOPLE.IS IT YOU?

1. People who like to fake it. Better to be plastic. Are you are nearly there?
2. Nosy people... Go mind your own bloody business.
3. People who smoke near me. If you want to be a chimney then go somewhere else.
4. People who ask silly questions. It's better to shut up than to show your stupidity. Hah!Hah!Hah!
5. People who uses 'perfume' from the devil's factory and think they smell great. Probably not.If so, then why do you smell so toooooooot bad?
6. People who brag or think that they are great BUT can't produce a damn on time!
7. People who like to give uncalled for remarks. No one will say that you are dumb.Better left unsaid than to sound like an ass. Sorry....
8. People who uses 'jinggle bells' the whole year round as their ring tone. Come on!!! It's not even Advent what more Christmas. 'HO! HO!huuuuu!'
9. Men who don't respect woman, Remember! your mother, sister and grandmother are women.

10 massive things that say I'm me!

1) I'm allergic to fake people, when I get close to one I start to itch. They really piss me off..I smell them a mile away... (Joanne... you are damn right . Just like the Japanese)
2) My favourite phrase'.........funny isn't it,people???'
3) When I wear pink, it means I like the colour pink. It is not because people tell me they like me in pink.
4) Trousers .......people trousers!!!.What 'pants',huh?
5) I'm ME. The nicest person who will be there for you. It's just me realizing that I don't need certain people and the drama they bring!
6) I hate it when people tell me, "Practice makes perfect". Haven't they heard.... 'Nobody is perfect". So, why practice when nobody is perfect???
7) Caffeine puts a smile on my face.:)
8) Baskin Robbins 'Rum Raisin' .....it just melts my heart... nothing comes close! Not even Haagen Daz

9) I JUST LOVE APPLES.. ANYTHING TO DO WITH APPLES.
10)Hemm.. probably a cottage with a little English Garden (my LOVE for Roses) and a fish pond and( a gardener.)
11) Human rights does not exist. If it does, please explain what Human Lefts is all about.?
Want more?

Under the weather!!!

Hemm..... the loo be loo now is probably my best friend.Down with fever and diarrhoea...

LIES

Can you live with it? Probably it will be difficult.
Quote :One is easily fooled by that which one loves. -- Jean Baptiste Poquelin Moliere
Why then do your loved one/ones lie to you? They say they lie because they love you??? I can't comprehend....
Deceiving others. That is what the world calls a romance. -- Oscar Wilde
Probably that is what some people think. People close to you.. the one you trusted and love all along...

SECRETS

PRELUDE
It is only now, a year later that it seems significant, perhaps the only sign I was ever given of what was happening all around me. Why?? Why did it all happen to me? Was it really love or lies, a pack of lies.
For days afterwards, I still thought about him.WHY?His scent lingered in me. Today I saw him again. And once again- for the last time, I hope. It's a contradiction, I do realize. But never have love and hate been so close, so complicit, so deep inside me.

1st blog.

I have always wanted a blog, but kept postponing due to probably laziness and lack of time. Well, today I'll start .... wanted to write a novel long time ago...probably...now I'll start putting it down in words in my blog little by little.